Choking Boys


As a continuation of ‘Chocolate Strawberries’ – a blog based on my ideas and views on hyper masculinity in Botswana and why and how it affects men, I have decided to share this album with you. Throughout the blog you will notice strong symbolism, that should get your mind thinking.

The concept of this album is ‘Boys in chokers’. Chokers are trending at the moment, but they are seen as a feminine accessory, used by women for centuries to display wealth, class, prostitution and even homage to those who were executed by the guillotine during the French Revolution, now I want to mix it up a little. Who is to say men can’t wear chokers, look bomb swaggy fresh as mint and be heterosexual? No one, absolutely no one is the answer!

Growing up in a society that is so in touch with tradition and customs, is what I consider to be a privilege – so many people have lost their identities to westernization. With this being said, I also believe that too much tradition and custom, can pave way for rigid mindsets. The world is constantly evolving and ever changing – it is becoming more liberal, more creative and inventive, yes some things are just repeated trends, but as a whole, the world is becoming more open and accepting. Now is the time to encourage Batswana men to identify themselves as they want to be seen, accept them for it and let them get on with their lives. This post is not about homosexuality, it is about men regardless of their sexual orientation, being allowed to express themselves in whichever way they want to regarding fashion.

Choking Boys symbolizes quite literally the effect that these firm and rigid ideas and stereotypes that young and old men alike must present themselves in such a way to be seen as masculine and therefore heterosexual, could have on Batswana men. As crying is often frowned upon and stamped out from an early age, men start to develop nonchalant mannerisms and hence when they begin to ponder the many different fashion trends and styles and proceed to try them out they are ridiculed and mocked, so they become reclusive and withdrawn. This breeds further anger and animosity towards society. These are not tested facts, merely my own observations and experiences.

After looking at the photos, reading this and truly understanding my plea with Batswana society to be more accepting of how their young men identify themselves as a whole, not just hairstyles, don’t judge men and their clothing choices that make them feel true to themselves. There are men all around you that are choking on negativity and judgement already, so try and see things from a different perspective – if it has nothing to do with you, then its none of your business. With that being said, check out the album.








Thank you to Tefo Anthony Kaste and Prince Theo Arun for working with me and sharing my enthusiasm about this concept and shoot – both of you are gorgeous souls and I am so glad to have worked with you guys.

Tweet at me with any thoughts, comments or feedback @jordanindigoboy

Thank you for reading. Xx


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